There’s no definite time period before you can have sex again, although it is recommended that you wait until you stop bleeding, regardless of the delivery method. ​​​​​​​​
After giving birth you may feel sore and tired and you may have a perineal tear or a caesarean section wound that needs to heal. Waiting gives your body time to recover and reduces your risk of infection. ​​​​​​​​
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It’s also completely normal to not feel like having sex for some time– sleep deprivation, leaking breasts, bleeding, changing hormones and caring for a newborn can certainly affect your libido. ​​​​​​​​
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Of course, when you start having sex again is a personal decision. It’s a good idea to speak to your partner about how you feel physically and emotionally, and only start when you are both ready.​​​​​​​​
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It’s good to start slowly. Hormonal changes might leave your vagina dry and sensitive, especially if you’re breastfeeding, and a water-based lubricant can help. In some circumstances a vaginal oestrogen cream can also be useful. You might also feel some discomfort during sex if you’re healing from an episiotomy or perineal tears. ​​​​​​​​
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Don’t forget to use contraception as it is possible to get pregnant even if you’re breastfeeding and your periods have not started again. You’ll have the opportunity to discuss your contraceptive options with your obstetrician at your six-week follow up appointment. ​​​​​​​​